Having compassion for yourself

Compassion is something often extended toward others. Do you know we can also extend compassion toward ourselves?


I went to Popular bookstore, hoping to get the latest What Color is Your Parachute? 2016 However, it was not yet available. But I chanced upon a book titled “Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a Compassionate Friend”. It was a very moving book.

Take responsibility for your own well-being today. Don’t be dependent on others for your own well-being. Be your own advocate, supporter and loving friend.

One way we make others responsible for our well-being is to ignore our own instincts in a situation and instead defer to another person. We aren’t deferring out of kindness; we do it out of mistrusting the instincts God has given us or out of fear of speaking up. Furthermore, we often end up blaming the other person for not considering us in the decision. In reality, we may not have shared our opinion on the issue or how important it was to us. Advocating for yourself, regardless of the result, is a very compassionate and connecting thing to do for yourself. When you give your well-being over to the opinions and actions of others, it often doesn’t work out for you or the other person. (p. 79-78)

Fredrickson, K. (2015) Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a Compassionate Friend. Gran Rapids, Michigan: Revell